May 1, 2009 § 2 Comments
I don’t know about y’all, but for me it’s been a loooong week. What better to do than to kick back and relax with a sampling of my favorite spoken word Youtube videos?
Cocky by Julia Serano – “My penis is the loose thread that unravels the gender of everyone around me.”
What We Deserve by Sonya Renee – I get chills every single time I watch this.
Bi-Racial Hair by Zora Howard - Shira and I went to middle school with this incredible artist. Video embedding has been disabled, but go watch it. Go. It’s lovely.
April 20, 2009 § Leave a Comment
But so totally necessary: Women’s Glib (minus Shira, plus Amanda) performing In The Jungle at a community open mic night.
Bottom row, left to right, is Phoebe, Katie, Zoe, Ruth, and Silvia; I’m at the top left and friend of the blog Amanda is at the top right.
Thanks to Barry for the video!
April 3, 2009 § Leave a Comment
Is the hilarious (and heartbreakingly realistic) Derailing For Dummies website.
Just follow this step-by-step guide to Conversing with Marginalised People™ and in no time at all you will have a fool-proof method of derailing every challenging conversation you may get into, thus reaping the full benefits of every privilege that you have.
JUST what I’ve been looking for. Amen. My personal favorite piece of advice is You’re Being Overemotional, a derailing method that’s been used on me just seven trillion too many times. Angry about that rape joke I just made? You must be on your period, Miranda. Lighten up.
The author touches on a particular point that’s been dominating my thoughts recently…
The best part is, you don’t even have to be a white, heterosexual, cisgendered, cissexual, upper-class male to enjoy the full benefits of derailing conversation! Nope, you can utilise the lesser-recognised tactic of Horizontal Hostility to make sure that, despite being a member of a Marginalised Group™ yourself, you can exercise a privilege another Marginalised Group™ doesn’t have in order not to heed their experience!
We’ve been talking about this issue in my school’s Gay-Straight Alliance for a few weeks; big post on that in the works. I’m continually fascinated by the shortcomings of progressive movements – like the historical failure of the mainstream feminist movement to include anyone but elite white women and what the queer justice crowd is willing to get loud about (hint: yes to Prop 8, no to the horrifyingly commonplace murders of trans women of color). It is profoundly disappointing when marginalized groups act oppressively towards other groups. Call me idealistic – I am idealistic.
March 30, 2009 § 4 Comments
Via Feministe, a hilarious article from The Onion: Renowned Hoo-Ha Doctor Wins Nobel Prize for Medical Advancements Down There.
Accompanying the Nobel Prize is a $1.4 million grant that, according to medical experts, can buy Lazoff a lot of those metal spreader thingies. But the talented physician told reporters she is not interested in monetary reward, and only hopes to educate at-risk women about their own vag—genit—about their health.
“We should be encouraging an open dialogue with our young women, one that isn’t constrained by some outdated facade of 1950s morality,” Lazoff said to a crowd of people looking down at their shoes. “I cannot say this clearly enough: Ladies, please, make an appointment to get your annual [looksie-doo], especially if you are [seeing a fella] or have experienced pain or sensitivity in your ['Hello, my baby! Hello, my darling! Hello, my ragtime gal!'].”
Added Lazoff, “It is time for this country to begin having a frank discussion about the [sound of loud, extended train whistle].”
This would be even funnier if it weren’t so damn true. In my tenth grade health class, my teacher habitually stuttered when talking about anything remotely related to “the vagina.” And god forbid any mention of the c-word! No, not cunt – I’m talking about the clitoris. Maybe I’m being too harsh, though. After all, the class was taught from a textbook that devoted an entire chapter to fetal health and development, but couldn’t even put “condom” in the index. That’s the state of sex education in New York City.
It’s not the first time anyone’s said this, but the whole issue of being hush-hush about lady parts is particularly frustrating because we hear about man bits ALL THE TIME. Penises are referenced in movies and ads constantly – though curiously, we almost never see them (remember the scandalous scene from the Sex and the City movie where Samantha caught a tiny glimpse of that guy’s penis? This from a show that features breasts, butt, and the unmentionables in nearly every episode!)
Say it loud, say it proud: women have parts. Most of us have a vagina, clitoris, labia, cervix…the works. And we’re not afraid to talk about them.
February 9, 2009 § 3 Comments
Valentine’s Day is this Saturday, and you know what that means! Tons of ads that encourage us to celebrate the relationships and love in our lives buy lots and lots of useless stuff. Everywhere I look this season, I’ve seen chocolate – mostly in ads that remind women it’s okay to indulge (though it’s still not okay to be single).
The incredibly hilarious Sarah Haskins takes on the chocolate monster in her latest Target Women segment. Watch it, seriously. Just a warning: if you’re anything like me, you’ll be really craving chocolate afterwards.